A few weekends ago, I went to TWO weddings! It was especially crazy because one was in OK and the other in TX and the first (the one in OK) was one that my sisters and I filmed. But it was fun! 🙂
Here is the wedding trailer for the one we filmed. 🙂
For the first wedding, being it was outdoors, I wanted to wear something cool but not a skirt or dress (because of the wind XP). So, I chose some wide-legged, gray trousers (gift) and a lovely blue blouse and white gathered undershirt (also gifts) and canvas shoes (gift).
The second wedding was a little more relaxing for me, except in what I wore. 😉 haha. Really, not the best choice of clothing considering it was prone to sweat stains. And that sounds gross, but during an outdoor wedding in TX in early September– it’s inevitable. Yeah. Yuck. Oh well. 🙂 I love the dress so much! XD I actually won it in a giveaway from eShakti, but have since altered it– shortened the sleeves and the skirt length. I got the wedges for about $5 at a thrift store and the clutch was a gift from my mom. The necklace was actually up-cycled from some blingy sandals I had. haha. I also made and wore a rhinestone hair clasp in the back. 🙂
The whole reason we wear clothing: Adam and Eve (in the Garden of Eden– see Genesis chapter 3, in particular verses 6, 7, 11, 12, 21) were unashamedly naked. But when they sinned, they became ashamed [of their nakedness]. The need for a covering/clothing is a direct result of Adam and Eve’s sin. A really interesting part of it all is that their sin was based in pride (the oppositeof the definition of modesty/propriety/moderation, by the way)– they figured they knew better than God. (see Genesis 3:1-7)
I believe that clothes shouldn’t draw attention to ourselves (once again– pride). Rather we should seek to draw attention, with the end result being God’s glorification, to the work we do in God’s name. (1 Peter 3:3-4; 1 Timothy 2:8-10)
Motives. What are our motives for wearing a certain garment? If our motives are based in pride (the oppositeof modesty/propriety/moderation)– seeking to show-off how fancy we are, or even trying to show off how we’re-“so-good-because-we’re-not-wearing-revealing-clothes” (the holier-than-thou attitude); then we’re sinning. (Proverbs 16:18; Proverbs 18:12; Proverbs 21:4; 1 Timothy 6:17; 1 John 2:16) If our motives are to receive sexual attention from those who aren’t our spouse, then we are sinning. (Hebrews 13:4)
Self control. A lot of times, Christians seem to consign “modesty” to the role of a woman; and tend to also focus on “tangible modesty” (i.e. clothing). Men need to use self-control, so as not to think impure thoughts about women (among other things)– no matter what the women are wearing/acting/saying. *Side note*, I firmly believe that women need to use self-control in their thought life as well (we can just as easily think lustful thoughts about a guy, which is a sin– see Matthew 5:27,28). It’s also important for all Christians (men and women) to implement modesty in the way we dress (and think, speak and act)– as in, not wearing gaudy clothing, or having the wrong motives for wearing something that isn’t gaudy in our perception (a.k.a a plain t-shirt and jeans can be immodest if we have wrong motives/intentions).
So according to the definition (at the top of this post), modesty isn’t a tangible thing. It’s an ideal. An attitude. And as we know, attitudes are made evident in not only our actions, but also our clothing choices. Once again, it goes back to your motives.
As Christians, we should seek to bring glory to Christ’s name, notourname (Psalm 29:1; Psalm 115:1; Romans 16:27; 1 Corinthians 10:31; Ephesians 3:21; Philippians 4:20; 1 Timothy 1:17).That, my dear friends, is true modesty.